“Once upon a time there was this young mother who almost had a nervous breakdown! She was tired, sick, had a huge tension headache which was not in anyway relieved by the high pitched screams of her 3 week old daughter. And of course, at the moment when she was worn thin, her two and a half year old son desperately needed her attention. She was in great despair and overwhelmed with frustration, guilt and defeat.”
That was last Thursday.
The day had started off just ok. Despite all the hand sanitizing, Emma still managed to catch the nasty cold that is going around. Poor baby was super congested and no matter how much I sucked out of her little bitty nose, the mucus was overflowing!
The night had been better than the previous and I was fooled into thinking she was getting better. By mid afternoon, I started to feel the congestion hit.
I picked up Sammy from school and put in a movie for him while I fed Emma.
She had a hard time feeding, she started to scream…it was all downhill from there.
From about 2:30 to almost 5 she did not stop crying. Her feeding was all crazified because she would drink a bit and then scream, drink a bit and scream…etc.
I was at my wits end. I had no idea what to do. I kept sucking stuff out and she screamed louder. She was being overdosed with Saline and gripe water.
Then, of course, I was needed by my precious boy. He had left us alone for the most part for the first hour and in he comes…”Momma I want you to watch TV wit me. Pwease mommy?”
And the guilt poured down.
He kept saying, “Pwease mommy, come watch it wit me.”
I tried to explain that baby was sick, but he kept saying, “but I want you.”
So I lied and said I would be there in one minute.
Tears began to pour down my eyes. I was overwhelmed. I was feeling very sick , my head and body were aching and my precious baby girl would not stop screaming.
I had failed. I wasn’t a great mommy. I had put my kid in front of the tv and left him there. I couldn’t pacify my baby. I couldn’t meet any one’s needs. The feeling of confidence that I had days before when I thought, “Hey, I can do two kids. This ain’t so bad…” those thought mocked me.
And finally, because I am still learning to give control to God and go to him first instead of fixing it all on my own, I began to pray.
You know the one…”Lord I can’t do this, I’m desperate. HELP!!!”
My pathetic plea. And I have to ask myself…when will I ever learn. And as always, My God comes through.
I began to pray. And I desperately said, “Lord, I need help. I need encouragement. I’m being pulled and I can’t handle this Lord. I need to know that someone loves me and is praying for me right now.”
I’m not kidding you…a moment later my phone rings.
It’s my dad.
In my life, my dad is my encourager,my support and mostly my reminder. Whenever things aren’t going well or I am starting to doubt, he reminds me…to be strong in the Lord and the power of his might… To wait upon the Lord… That Joy comes in the morning… That he will give me the desires of my heart… That He will supply all my needs… To trust in the Lord with all my heart…
I pick up the phone and immediately start to blubber. I can’t do this, I’m so tired, I am failing miserably, etc.”
And he says, “Let me see what I can do, stop crying, be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might and I will call you back.”
He calls back and says, ok, your mom is going to go over and spend the night so you can rest and feel better.
The baby finally fell asleep. I sat on the couch and watched the movie with my son and my mother came over and I slept all night.
God came through…he heard me, like he always does.
I have the best dad’s in the world!
“Father, how many times have I been through this. How many times do I lose hope and strength. So many times I feel like I am failing and that I can’t do this and then I am reminded that I can with you alone. You are my strength. I can do all things through You who gives me strength. Father, thank you for showing me how much you love me through the parents you have given me. Thank you for their wisdom and love for you. Please continue to give me strength. In your precious name, Amen.”